Meeting my boyfriend

So eleo and I go way back. We use to date other people but hung around each other sometimes.. That's how we knew eachother. We officially met and started being friends in 2010. Eleo and I had met at night school. I was taking an extra credit just cause, nerd right? Lol anyways. I didn't really like him, I actually disliked him. I remember turning to my friend at the time and saying "is this a joke, why is he in this class". Little did I know, that this was the guy I was going to fall in love with.. Well as time passed, we were doing a Halloween Haunted House I forget where, we were actually helping set it up. Eleo started talking to me, and sure I started talking back.. Small talk, nothing big. It was raining one night and he offered to drive me home.. I declined for the only reason, my friend was with me and I didn't want her to take the bus home by herself.. It was pretty far and I felt bad.. Well days kept passing by we started talking more and more.. Only in person though we didn't have eachothers numbers yet. I was starting to get pretty flirty with him.. If you read my other blogs you'd know that I was in a pretty big ditch right before I met him. Going through a lot of stuff because of my previous boyfriend.. So I felt like I was finally catching a break.. Time went on and we started hanging out more and more besides it being at night school. He started driving me home from night school too. It seemed like both of us were experiencing the same stuff. One night he kissed me... I was pretty happy I mean I really liked him at this point. Well it was too good to be true.. He still didn't completely break off connection with one of his exes, they weren't dating, but they were friends. And my ex was still crazy as ever stalking me and what not... So we spent a lot of time fighting where we just stopped talking.. Around Christmas time we started talking again..  We went out had fun, drove everywhere did lots of things. I mean I was head over heels for this guy. We started dating in January 2011. From there it was still pretty rocky.. But we stuck it out. We actually broke up for a couple months and got back together in April 2011. Our problems consisted of our exes not allowing us to be together, spreading a ton of rumors about eleo and I.. They bascially made it physically impossible to be together.. Well this never ended we just decided to fight for our realtionship, we were happy together if people didn't like that then that was just too bad. Now that doesn't mean we didn't fight cause we do fight and that normal!!! Everyone has arguments. I use to be a verrrry jealous person to, which caused a lot of arguments. But hey, I got over it. We ended up breaking up the summer before I started college cause we fought a lot. We ended up getting back together and on our 2 year anniversary I found out that we were expecting. I was scared shitless 18 years old about to have a baby.. He was scared too, but very excited!!! He was honestly the best boyfriend when I was pregnant. I craved something, he got it. I was mad, he tried to make me happy. Lol if you read my other blog you'd know I was miserable pregnant! High five to my boyfriend to sticking It out!!! Lol. He was there for me when I was in labor tried to make me as comfortable as possible. Nothing really helped in that situstion though, I was in pain and nothing was gunna help. But he was great. He didn't pass out in delivery, squirm nothing!!! He's a great father to his daughter and a great boyfriend. We still have our fights.. But we are still together and we work everything out. We wanna show our daughter a strong relationship, so when she grows up she doesn't have to go through what I did or him. We made 3 years this January, we live together,  and it's been hard, but it's a great learning experience! 

Hope this gives everyone a little background of us:D 

Thanks for reading :)

Portuguese Chicken Recipe

Hey everyone! This blog is going to be a recipe my grandma taught me. It's chicken and potatoes, with sauce .. It's so yummy! Please let me know of any of you try it!!! I'd love to hear reviews!!! 

Ingredients

1 onion sliced however your prefer 

2 garlic cloves thinly sliced

1 can of tomato paste

Portuguese hot pimento sauce ( i use the brand FERMA, and they also have sweet too of you don't like spicy)

olive oil

5-6 potatoes 

Boneless chicken (breast, leg, wings, I used bonless and skinless breast but it all works

Salt

Black pepper

Seasoning salt

The first step is to put the tomato paste at the bottom of the tray and spread it out. 

Next your going to add the onions and garlic to the tray as much as you'd like.

Then you can put the pimento sauce, I drain it and then put it in cause my boyfriend doesn't like the seeds.

Then you can drizzle olive oil in the pan over everything in there.

Now you can can out the potatoes, I usually skin them and cut them in half around the pan. ( if your a little confused I'll post a picture of what it looks like before and after )

In a seperate bowl I season the chicken with seasoning salt, pimento sauce, garlic powder, pinch of black pepper and I put some onions in the bowl and mix it all up. 

I then place the chicken in the middle of the pan.

Preheat the oven to 350. 

Cover the top of the pan with foil and lift the four corners up just a little. This will allow the potatoes to cook! 

Once in this oven check it in about 15 minues, flip the potatoes and chicken , recover and put it back in untill it's done!

Usually takes 35 mintues in my oven. But everyone has a different stove! So keep an eye on it 

You can salt if you'd like. Personally doesn't need much. Do it before you put it in the oven.

Before it was cooked

I kinda rub the sauce all over everything.

After it's cooked

The hot sauce I use is 

Enjoy! Thanks guys :) 

Becoming a Mom

Hey everyone! This blog post is going to be about how much being a mom changes your life. 

Once you become pregnant you already know your life isn't going to revolve around yourself anymore. But it really doesn't become reality until you give birth. Forget about doing your hair perfectly, your make up, going outside whenever you want, eating when your hungry, peeing by yourself.. It's not going to happen.. Lol! 

Showers? Taken at night when avah is down for the night. 

Makeup&Hair? Done in 30 mins while she's asleep.

Washroom breaks? Most of the time while I'm holding her.

Shopping? Maybe once a week with her, she likes to be held so mostly holding her and shopping at the same time. 

Sleep? Forget about it. People say sleep when the baby sleeps.. If you do that you'll never get anything done. Nothing!!

Sleeping in? HAaaa, not happening.

Cooking? Avah is usually in a carrier on me, or I cook when she's asleep. So yes sometimes I'm eating at 9pm.

Blogging? During naps. 

Point is it's not easy.. Everything changes. I had a really easy time when avah was a newborn. She slept a lot. Now that she's getting older... Boy oh boy.. She doesn't like to sleep often... 

Now just imagine yourself everyday doings, but now add a child to it? 

Would you be able to continue doing everything you've done? Probably not.

I mean it's completely worth it, I love my daughter. 

If your in school that's another thing to think about. I was in college and had to stop, cause I have a baby to take care of. School plus baby! No way 

 

Friends? Forget about it, you'll loose so many individuals when you have a baby cause you can no longer go out every weekend.

Pretty Manicure? Won't stay pretty too long. Lol first day I get my nails done they are ruined in about 1 hour ethier broken or not shiny anymore! Lol 

Your 100$ clothes? Don't even think about wearing that around a baby! Your bound to get it ruined with something !!! 

( pee, poo, drool, puke) SOMETHING WILL HAPPEN LOL!!!

Cellphones and IPad? Apparently are theirs not yours... 

Watching tv? I'm always watching disney junior... DRIVES ME INSANSE!!! 

Cleaning? When the baby is sleeping.

Lol now see how many things I've mentioned that I do when she's sleeping? And she doesn't sleep sometimes or takes two 30 min naps a day!!! crazy right??!

It's the most rewarding job ever don't get me wrong, but once your a parent it's not like a day time job, where you clock out at 5 and have days off. This is a 24 hours a day 7 days a week job! You don't only have to think for yourself now you thinking for yourself and your baby. 

Yes, EVERYTHING CHANGES!!! 

Thanks for reading :D

Loosing Baby Weight

Hey everyone! Today I wanna discuss how I've been getting the baby weight I gained off. I mean, let's face it, not all of us bounce back like most do... I certainly didn't. So I wanna share how I've done it. As you all know I gained about 65 pounds in pregnancy YIKES! Your only suppose to gain 30... So I lost about 25 pounds after I gave birth. Which left me at 155. This was not the weight I wanted to be at! I want to be atlesst at 130 pounds.

First very important thing is eating healthy! I've never been the type to eat healthy. I've had such a fast matabolism my whole life that I could eat whatever the heck I wanted and not gain a pound... After I had my daughter that changed.. I started eating more vegetables less greasy foods.. And it helped a lot... 

Cut out any sodas or juice!!! This method makes you loose a quick and easy 10 pounds right off the bat!!! Water water water! I know water sucks. I use to hate water... Couldn't stand it.. Now it's my bestfriend. I mean if that's how I'm going to loose weight then I'm loving it every second! 

I also eat foods in moderation. So if I'm gunna eat pasta I only eat about 1 cup. Or ice cream, one scoop.. Everything is moderation for me now... I mean don't think of it as a diet think of it as a healthy lifestyle. If you put your mind to it you can do it!!!! 

A healthy way to loose weight is loosing 1-2 pounds a week.. Some weeks you won't loose weight ethier and some weeks you'll loose more then you thought. But don't give up!!!! 

Always have three meals a day and two snacks... Yes I don't always follow this rule cause it's hard with a infant.. But even if you have to prep before.. Do that. I've also purchased frozen healthy meals. Smart Ones! They go on sale very often for about 2$ and they are low in calories. Well most of them. It's really saved me when my daughter has wanted to be held all day and I'm STARVING!!!!

Now in 7 weeks I've lost a total of 15.6 pounds !!! EASY RIGHT. ? Not eating anything speical, haven't really exercised gunna start as soon as weather gets better! I'm currently at 140. It's not where I wanna be but I'm getting there

Ladies remeber it took you 9 months to make a baby don't expect results in 2 months give yourself up to a year!!!!! 

If you have any questions please feel free to ask me! I'm open to answering anything and everything!!! 

Rough Patches in life...

Hey guys, in this blog in going to be writting about my teenage years... They weren't the greatest as you can tell from the title but I'm willing to share it with you guys..

So when I was in grade seven I started becoming quite popular I'd say..  I hung out with the cool girls and whatever else.. I finally fit in. Well fitting in was probably not the best choice from me and I probably could of avoided a lot of stupid choices I made in the up coming years. Girls when your mother tells you that someone is no good for you... Do not ignore her MOTHERS ARE ALWAYS RIGHT!!!! Yeah my mother warned me over and over and over again that these "friends" were not my friends... Boy was she right.. But of course teenagers rebel, lol I went a lot more then rebelling. Whatever, I started hanging out in parks with lots of girls and guys, peer pressured in to smoking cigarets. From here my life just kept going down hill. I started arguing with my mother a lot , who really just wanted to best for me (sorry mom, love you <3). And then the stupid relationships came.. I dated someone when I was like 14 who was a lot older then me, who had a child . BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!! I will not get into details about any of these relationships because I do not like to talk about this time in my life .. And then 15 dated another guy who was abusive towards me, and I actually needed to get a restraining order... Crazy right ? Girls please please please learn from me! A man who doesn't treat you good does NOT deserve you! Do not stick around cause they usually never change maybe the odd case but abusive men especially DO NOT CHANGE! Okay throughout this couple years I was spiralling outta control... I lied about where I was what I was doing who I was with... I just wanted to finally be accepted by a guy for me... Seemed impossible at the time . My current boyfriend and the father of my child is who met me when I was a mess, and he honestly was def not the type for me in the beginning. I'll write our story in another blog... But he stuck by me and helped me get on track with my life.. I started relaxing the more people I let go the better I became.. I don't know how to explain this well but, he like saved me from possibly hitting rock bottom... Hitting any lower then I was. I got into the partying phase and wanting to be out everywhere all the time .. You name it blizzard I was there, thunderstorm COUNT ME IN... My mother always told me she could never keep me inside. Any who.. Once I stopped hanging out at parks with my friends the negativity slowly disappeared.. I was also getting old and those scenes were getting quite boring.. Since I was also in a serious relationship with my current boyfriend he helped me move out of all the madness.. I stopped hanging out with about 95% of the people that got me into trouble, I started college and I got my life back on track.. My mother and I also started developing a rather close realtionship.. I wasn't lying anymore, I was bascially working and going to school everyday, or with my boyfriend. 

Let me just say one thing.. Friends that gossip about other to you and doing the same thing behind your back! I had a couple of friends that said my boyfriend was no good and if I dated him they wouldn't be my friends. That folks, are not TRUE FRIENDS... 

Well, lessons learned.. I no longer hang out with a lot of people, I have a few close friends and that's about it.. 

Hope you enjoyed :) 

P.S : Listen to your mothers, mothers are always right :) 

Goodnight :D

Guest Blog Post - Christina Lane

Hey everyone! Today I have a GUEST BLOG POST! She is the sweetest person ever, has kids of her own, and has been through some tough situations in her life which she describes in her post!! For more blogs from Christina, check out her blog link it'll be posted at the bottom of this blog! If you guys are book worms she also has an amazing book out called " More of you, Less of Me"! I read the book in one day! It was such an inspiring story! 

Okay guys here it is; 

First I’d like to start off by saying thank you Kayla for this opportunity to be a guest on your blog and share a little bit of my story. I’m really honored.

Hi there! My name is Christina. I’m a young mom to three amazing, awesome kids. Ok, one adult and two teens.  Now they weren’t always an adult and two teens. They started off as little wee babies.

Allow me to share a little bit of my story with you.

I’m a former teen mom.  At the fresh ripe age of 17, I gave birth to my son. I had no idea what I was in for but I did know that I wanted to be the best mom I could ever be.  Life threw many challenges my way and by the grace of God I buckled up and held on tight. My son’s biological dad was not up for this challenge and chose, with my help, a different path of life. So here I was 17 years old with a child. As time went on, and many heartaches and challenges later, I met someone.

Long story short, we got together and at the wonderful age of 19, guess what??? Yup, I got pregnant again! In June of 1995, I gave birth to my second child. Oh, did I mention I got married too? Yes, I did. So here I was 19 years old with two children, a husband and a cat. Life was far from easy. We were on a roller coaster of crazy for a couple of years, trying to make things work. It was a hard life. I was very lonely and felt very sad. Although I felt so sad, I loved my kids. We had fun together. My two kids loved each other and we spent a lot of time together. If life was not challenging enough, guess what happened next? After my 21st birthday, I received a late birthday gift. Can you guess what it was? If you guessed another child, you are correct!

So here I was, 21 years old with three kids under the age of four.One magnificent boy and two beautiful girls.

Thinking back to my early days as a young mom, I can’t believe the things that we went through. I did a lot of growing up. A lot.As my kids grew, I grew. I changed. I embraced parenting.

Here are a few things that I did, and still do today, to help make me a better parent:

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I chose to go with the flow of each day. By that I mean, if the dishes didn’t get done, they didn’t get done. If I had plans for the day and the day didn’t go with “my plans”, well so be it. I placed no expectation on the day. I went with where the kids were at and what they wanted to do (depending on what it was) haha.

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TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!! Take a bath, do yoga, pray and meditate, exercise, whatever it is, BE SURE TO DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF IF NOT DAILY, WEEKLY!! I cannot stress this enough.

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If you are with your partner, GO ON DATES! At least once a week or every two weeks, do something fun together, tell each other something good to one another daily. LOVE each other and HELP each other. HAPPY PARENTS ARE BETTER PARENTS ;)  

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PRAISE your child and say nice things about them. Especially when talking with other people. Your child needs to know you have their back and that they can count on you.

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If you are a parent, BE A PARENT. Having a “single” life and being a parent is like an oxymoron to me.

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Above all else, learn to love yourself and have FUN with your child. Laugh daily and hug often. Make choices that will better yourself and your family.

Parenting is a journey, it’s not a destination. Buckle up and enjoy the ride. You were chosen to have that child, YOU WERE CHOSEN. There’s a reason for it. Trust the process and learn to accept life on life’s terms with your child.

Today I am 38 years old. I am thriving and so are my kids. Two of my kids have graduated high school and are in University and college (I have an ear to ear grin as I type that). My son is actually going to be graduating from university this coming June. How’s that for teen mom statistics?? J My youngest daughter is finishing up high school. She’s got one more year to go. My relationships with each of my kids are amazing. Not only am I their mom, we are friends. I love them to bits! They saved my life. Today I can look back and thank God for this life He chose for me.

To all you parents out there, hang on through the tough times, they pass. Love yourself and be kind to you and your child, help each other out. Give each other a break. And here’s a very good question to ask yourself when the kids get “out of hand”, “Is this the hill I want to die on today?” Chances are it’s not. Hang on and take breaks when you need them. Live in the day you’re in. Forget tomorrow.

You are special. You are awesome. You are loved. Yup you are.

If you’d like to know more about me come check me out at: www.teenmombloggers.com

Bullying

It's time I discuss something a little different , something that has probably been discussed many many many times... 

Bullying is wrong! Honestly why must people break other people down to feel a sense of satisfaction in their lives? This his horrible. I mean I see girls on my instgram (mothers mostly) ripping eachother apart... I'd just like to say, what if that was your daughter or son being treated that way? What if you had to hear your children crying because society just wouldn't accept them for who they are? I know bullying hurts.. It cuts deep wounds that can't be fixed all the time... People commit suicide daily because people are being horrible human beings... ATTN BULLIES: my question to you is why? Why rip people apart? I've asked this question many times and there's always an answer, " she's a slut" "he's stupid and ugly" "she/he dated my ex boyfriend/girlfriend" " she's emo" "she sent out nudes" STOP ALL THE JUDGEMENT... Do you know this persons full detailed story? Have you taken the time to figure out why they are acting out? Most bullies would say no to that. So instead of ripping people apart why not try and help them! HELLO EVERYONE OUR CHILDREN ARE GROWING UP IN THIS SOCIETY!! What they see is what they'll do. It's up to us to change that.. Take a stand, if you know someone who is getting bullied help them out, don't be a by stander..