Women vs Men

Hey everyone!! 

I really enjoy this topic. A lot of people tend to have A LOT TO SAY ABOUT THIS:) 

So my question is, why isn't everything in a house hold 50/50? I mean it's 2014! In almost every home man & woman work, but still only the woman has to cook? Clean? Take care of the children? Does this seem fair?! 

No it doesn't. I've gotten into a lot of debates with people about this and sure if your wife wasn't working then it's ok to expect that from them, but what about the ladies out here who are working 5-7 days a week?! This is completely unreasonable.

Don't like washing dishes ? Nethier do I but it's gotta get done! Don't know how to cook? Me ethier, it's a learning process! Don't know how to clean? Bullshit everyone knows how to clean! Laundry? Easy! 

And If you don't know how to do any of the things I listed then that's why we have google! I'm pretty sure about 90% of families have internet access daily!!!

I was raised by a single mother who did it all on her own, while still managing to give me everything I possibly wanted! She played mommy and daddy.. And guess what? I'm happy she did! Cause I enjoy working and making MY OWN money. I don't like using other peoples money even if he's my boyfriend. I've always been independent too. 

All I'm saying is this is 2014.. Women are working twice as hard as some males . So no we shouldn't be expected to do EVERYTHING. 

Thanks for reading ! Comment your opinions!!!   

What a beautiful day :)

Hey everyone !!!

Have you guys been outside today??

It's gorgeous. Besides the puddles and snow mountains!! 

Hey! I'm just excited I can finally start my walks again with my daughter 

Today we went on a walk to tim hortons about a 20 mintue walk there and 20 mintue walk back! Total of 40 mintues! 

She loved it! I truley missed this too! 

Now were spending the rest of the afternoon reading books, blowing bubbles and apparently screaming (it's her new thing) lol!!! 

Here's some pictures of our day!!!

This is the river which is still frozen:( can't wait till it's not so avah can see the beavers and ducks!!

 

Lol she likes to read!!! 

Her expression when I blow bubbles lmao! She loves them!!! 

Thanks for reading :D

Daycare or SAHM?

Hey everyone... Id like to write a blog about daycare vs. being a stay at home mom.

I honestly don't know what I'm going to do with avah once i start work again in September... It's driving me crazy! I'm so insanely protective of her. It scares me that I might have to leave her in someone else's care while I work... I don't think I'm the only mom who experiences this though. But I've honestly started contemplating finding a way to stay longer with her... At least untill she can talk and tell me what's happening in daycare.

I've worked in daycare centres. Mommies let me be honest with you .. They aren't the nicest people to your children.. Some of them aren't nice at all.. I cannot tell you names because I signed a confidentiality form but I will tell you my experiences. 

DayCare #1.

This was by far the worst day care setting I've ever worked in. The staff is rude, they fight with eachother constantly, and they treat the kids horribly. I worked in the preschool room and they didn't really care what the kids did, sure they told the parents other wise but when it came down to it, the parents were being lied to. God forbid a parent express something they think isn't right.. All hell would break loose. I mean as a daycare worker I always always felt that I need to treat the children like my own! Cause one day like now, I have a child and I would want the same respect. They Aren't good with changing diapers, they force the children to eat food they don't enjoy, they have set feeding times, so if your child was hungry outside the feeding times, that was too bad they'd have to wait.. There was an autistic little boy, sweetest boy you'd ever meet, and he always wanted love an attention. Only one of the daycare workers would give him it, the other ones would always treat him like crap.. This broke my heart... I honestly do not understand why people would get I to a career they don't enjoy!!!! 

Daycare #2.

This daycare in my opinion was great. They took care of the children. The children had fun, and did so much stuff in one day! Now I was in one of the toddler rooms. They has about 7 different rooms in this day care center. I know quite a few people who have had a lot of problems with that day care... My room was great, but other rooms not so much.. They didn't change the children's diaper often, they used  children's diapers/creams&wipes for another child.. I'm sorry but that's very very wrong. If parents are paying for their child's diapers,creams and wipes they should be used on only that child! How fair is the fact that some parents buy pampers diapers worth 45$ a pack and others buying no name worth 10$? Not cool at all. 

So these were my experiences.. This is why I'm doubting where I place my child.. Oh and watching the news makes me doubt it even more since I hear of innocent babies dying in home day care centres daily..

Anybody have advice on this? I mean it's pretty impossible for myself to stay home from work for another year.. They should make maternity leave 2 years like Portugal does.. But whatever.

Thanks for reading :D

The importance of play

Hey everyone !!! 

As I mentioned in previous blogs, I did take my Early Childhood Education course in 2012-2013 never finished but I did about 14 courses including COOP!

So mommies, do any of you know how important play actually is? 

Play is crucial for your child's social, emotional, physical, and cognitive growth. It's your child's way of learning about his/her body and the world, and they'll use all five senses to do it, especially in the first year.

 

Did you know your child might fall into a specfic catergorie of play? 

Here's a list of them, with the explanation!

 

• Unoccupied (play) – when the child is not playing, just observing. A child may be standing in one spot or performing random movements.
• Solitary (independent) play – when the child is alone and maintains thifocused on its activity. Such a child is uninterested in or is unaware of what others are doing. More common in younger children (age 2–3) as opposed to older ones.
• Onlooker play (behavior) – when the child watches others at play but does not engage in it. The child may engage in forms of social interaction, such as conversation about the play, without actually joining in the activity. This type of activity is also more common in younger children.
• Parallel Play adjacent play, social coaction) – when the child plays separately from others but close to them and mimicking their actions.This type of play is seen as a transitory stage from a socially immature solitary and onlooker type of play, to a more socially mature associative and cooperative type of play.
• Associative play – when the child is interested in the people playing but not in the activity they are doing, or when there is no organized activity at all. There is a substantial amount of interaction involved, but the activities are not coordinated.
• Cooperative play – when a child is interested both in the people playing and in the activity they are doing. In cooperative play, the activity is organized, and participants have assigned roles. There is also increased self-identification with a group, and a group identity may emerge. Relatively uncommon in the preschool years because it requires the most social maturity and more advanced organization skills. An example would be a game of freeze tag.

Now are you curious to which toys are useful in helping your child learn? 

Here's a list;

1.Blocks

2.Rattles

3.Stacking rings or blocks 

4.Mirrors

5.Board Books

6. Sensory Shapes (I have sensory balls, it's a ball with texture, so the child can feel each groove and spikes)

7. Bright coloured toys

If you search the web you'll see each benefit these toys have! Trust me! These in the first years are very very important in child's play!

Thanks for reading :) 

Stereotyping Young Mothers

Hey everyone,
Sorry I haven't written a blog in days... I've been kinda outta ideas on posts. 

This blog I'm going to write is about people who Stereotype young mothers.

Everyone stereotypes someone at one point in their life, but ever notice how often young mothers get stereotyped? 

If you shook your head or answered yes.. Your right we do. 

The looks I got when I was pregnant were HORRIBLE. I was looked at like I was an alien from space.. I couldn't go to a mall, a resturant or even work without someone making a comment or giving dirty looks.. 

Why? Cause with a big belly I was automatically being stereotyped as a young and dumb teenager that wouldn't grow up and be a good mother.. 

What Id like for people to know is age doesn't define how good of a mother you'll be, or how much love you'll give your child.. Cause I'll be honest there are young mothers who don't give a crap about their children, and rather leave them with their grandparents and go out every weekend to party, BUT not all young mothers do this!!! I know a handful of young mommies that are with their child twenty four seven / 7 days a week! I never leave my daughter unless it's for like 2 hours to go shopping! I've been out once at night her whole entire 5 months of life !!! So should I be categorized under the young and dumb teenager that stupidly got pregnant ? NO! 

P.s i am not saying that parents shouldn't go out, cause that isn't the case at all everyone needs time for themselves.

Apparently since we are young mothers, if our kid is crying something is always wrong. GOD FORBID your child starts crying in a mall, you'll be told your child is hungry and this and that . Yes strangers I'm so sure because your 40 and I'm 20 I have no idea why MY child is crying.. WRONG AGAIN! Just because you have more years on young mothers does not mean you know how to take care of my child... Cause let's face it, you don't. 

Example: I was at Vaughn mills with my cousin Priti. We were both pregnant and she had her 8 month old with her. The baby started crying, cause you know BABIES CRY ITS NORMAL! Boy oh boy, the looks and comments we got.... An old man came up to us and said "he's hungry feed him".. Wait a second ? Last I checked she had it completely under control, and no he wasn't hungry he didn't wanna be in the stroller.. Stupid.

I forgot to mention, my cousin Does not fall into young mother categories, she 25 and people think she's like a teenager and can't Handel her kids...

Now, this is a time that I got really really upset.. I was on the subway, and in Canada, there are ALOT OF people WITH NO CONSIDERATION.. I got called a welfare case.. Oh look again, because I'm young I'm being stereotyped that I'm poor. Wrong. I've had a job since 14 and NO I DONT RECEIVE WELFARE! I don't get it just because I look young makes you think I don't have a job??? Before people judge you really should get to know the persons story.. Cause this situation affected me the most!! Knowing I've worked my ass off for my maternity leave, and I get called a welfare case.. Not cool

I'd just like to say that you should never define a mother by her age, that is not right. Yes it's hard, but it'll be just as hard when your 30! Motherhood doesn't get easier, it gets harder. Oh and if you have no kids please do not try and give advice on how to raise mine.. Just cause your older with a college degree doesn't mean you can tell me how to raise my child when you haven't tried raising yours yet.

Now I could go on and on about people who stereotype young mothers, but I will honestly be here untill 2025... So I will stop here! POINT IS: stop it. Just like judging and stereotyping other people is wrong. Young mommies don't deserve it!

 

 

Things you didn't know about me

Hey everyone !!

I'm going to write a list of things people probably don't know about me. :) 

Enjoy!!

1. I am very sttuborn 

2. I am 19 turning 20 this May!

3. I have a bad temper

4. I don't trust anyone except my mother, bestfriend/cousin and boyfriend.

5. I don't like chocolate that much...

6. I love joggers and hoodies 

7. I went to college for early childhood education and hated it!!

8. I've never failed a highschool class! 

9. I love reading, bookworm! 

10. I don't like wearing jewelry except for my highschool ring and pandora braclet.

11. I use to have 8 piercings now I only have 5 which are nose, and ears (use to have, belly button, eyebrows, tongue).

12. I can't sit in one spot for long, my teacher use to tell my mother I had ants in my pants which I think is true.

13. I have a shoe addiction.

14. My daughters name has always been my favourite name and mya, which is my sisters name! 

15. If I had a boy I would of named him Lucas.

16. I'm very superstitious.

17. I use to be a gymnast and soccer player.

18. I love quotes.

19. My favourite show is Gossip Girl. 

20. My daughter is spoiled. She has control over my phone and iPad.

21. I use to have Ariel red hair.

22. I am addicted to my phone.

23. My favourite food is pasta! But I no longer eat it:( 

24. I use to hate drinking water. Now I perfer it.

25. I was an only child for 13 1/2 years! 

26. Coffee is my bestfriend 

27. One of my best friends is my cousin:) Priti:D

28. My favourite disney movie is Little Mermaid

29. I hate jeans! Love yoga pants ! Have like 20 pairs lol! 

30. I always have a mean look on my Face. But I promise you I'm not mean:) 

My Tattoos

Hey everyone! Sorry I haven't blogged I've been pretty busy! But in this blog id like to discuss my tattoos and the meaning behind them. I only have two so far, but I do plan on getting a couple more! 

My first tattoo 

Chinese Writting: Mother

I got this tattoo when I was 16! My mom had taken me to do our first tattoo together. I really wanted something that was very important to me. We had decided to mother and daughter tattoos! Mine is placed on the outside of my right ankle. It does need touching up since it's 5 years old already. But I love it. 

My Second Tattoo

Quote; " fall seven times, stand up eight" 

I got this tattoo about 2 years ago! This is a very very powerful quote to me. If you read my other blogs you'd know I was going through a lot of stuff in my teenage years. I always felt like giving up, running away from all the problems, doing whatever I could to get away from it, but after all that wouldn't fix anything. When I seen this quote a long time ago, it reminded me that no matter how hard life gets you always need to get back up. No matter how hard you fell.. No matter who was or wasn't there to catch you! Just get back up and try again. This tattoo is placed on my upper back. 

So those are the only tattoos I have at the moment. I do wanna get my daughters name on my collar bone, very soon. Eventually I wanna get the rosary on my foot too (how original)! Lol I've always loved that tattoo but never had the balls to actually go get it! 

If I could I probably would fill my whole body in quotes and look like a walking scripture, but I'm not going to do that! 

Thanks for reading :D 

Avahs Baptism

Hey everyone! 

Today I was super busy with avahs baptism!!!!! She's finally apart of gods community. 

Here's a brief summary cause I'm really tired...

We went to her Godmothers house in the morning cause portugese tradition is godmother gets the baby dressed... Avah hates getting dressed it takes me about 35 mintues everyday to change her in the mornings.. So the dress thing did not go well... She cried for about 1 hour and a half... My poor baby was so hot. But I didn't wanna take it off cause I wouldn't be able to get it back on after.

Her godmother bought her outfit, and her godfather bought her beautiful gold. Love  it. (Another portugese tradition)

Avah had fallen asleep on the way to the church!!! THANKFULLY!!! She woke up in a great mood. She started talking away during the ceremony.. Lol.. 

When she was getting the water put on her head, she didn't cry or freak out!!! After all she probably thought she was taking a bath. And she loves her baths!!! 

The priest who baptized Avah wasn't the one I had met. I found the ceremony 

really disorganized... We never knew what to do.. He just kinda expected us to know... Which sucked but oh well. 

After the church we had a small family gathering at a resturant. 

Avah was actually allowing her guests to hold her!! this is a shocker to me. She does not like leaving my hip, she's going through stranger anxiety. She starts crying like crazy when someone even tries to hold her.. But today she was okay for about an hour to let people hold her! YAY!!!

I had a really good time, there was soooooo much food! I'm still full!!!!!! And we had lots to take home!! Yay no cooking tomorrow for me:) haha. I also enjoyed and loved everyone who came out today! Thank you guys !!!!! 

I'm glad it's over! 

I'm also extremely happy that my daughter is now officially apart of the Catholic community .

Here's some pictures of today :D

This cake was made by avahs godmother and Tia !! Tasted soooo yummy !!!

My beautiful girl and I before she got baptized.

Mommy, Daddy and Avah after the ceremony :)

P.S : I write my blogs from my phone, and it's been brought to my attention that I have lots of spelling mistakes! It is my damn auto correct sorry about it! I'll try my best to fix it !!!

 

Meeting my boyfriend

So eleo and I go way back. We use to date other people but hung around each other sometimes.. That's how we knew eachother. We officially met and started being friends in 2010. Eleo and I had met at night school. I was taking an extra credit just cause, nerd right? Lol anyways. I didn't really like him, I actually disliked him. I remember turning to my friend at the time and saying "is this a joke, why is he in this class". Little did I know, that this was the guy I was going to fall in love with.. Well as time passed, we were doing a Halloween Haunted House I forget where, we were actually helping set it up. Eleo started talking to me, and sure I started talking back.. Small talk, nothing big. It was raining one night and he offered to drive me home.. I declined for the only reason, my friend was with me and I didn't want her to take the bus home by herself.. It was pretty far and I felt bad.. Well days kept passing by we started talking more and more.. Only in person though we didn't have eachothers numbers yet. I was starting to get pretty flirty with him.. If you read my other blogs you'd know that I was in a pretty big ditch right before I met him. Going through a lot of stuff because of my previous boyfriend.. So I felt like I was finally catching a break.. Time went on and we started hanging out more and more besides it being at night school. He started driving me home from night school too. It seemed like both of us were experiencing the same stuff. One night he kissed me... I was pretty happy I mean I really liked him at this point. Well it was too good to be true.. He still didn't completely break off connection with one of his exes, they weren't dating, but they were friends. And my ex was still crazy as ever stalking me and what not... So we spent a lot of time fighting where we just stopped talking.. Around Christmas time we started talking again..  We went out had fun, drove everywhere did lots of things. I mean I was head over heels for this guy. We started dating in January 2011. From there it was still pretty rocky.. But we stuck it out. We actually broke up for a couple months and got back together in April 2011. Our problems consisted of our exes not allowing us to be together, spreading a ton of rumors about eleo and I.. They bascially made it physically impossible to be together.. Well this never ended we just decided to fight for our realtionship, we were happy together if people didn't like that then that was just too bad. Now that doesn't mean we didn't fight cause we do fight and that normal!!! Everyone has arguments. I use to be a verrrry jealous person to, which caused a lot of arguments. But hey, I got over it. We ended up breaking up the summer before I started college cause we fought a lot. We ended up getting back together and on our 2 year anniversary I found out that we were expecting. I was scared shitless 18 years old about to have a baby.. He was scared too, but very excited!!! He was honestly the best boyfriend when I was pregnant. I craved something, he got it. I was mad, he tried to make me happy. Lol if you read my other blog you'd know I was miserable pregnant! High five to my boyfriend to sticking It out!!! Lol. He was there for me when I was in labor tried to make me as comfortable as possible. Nothing really helped in that situstion though, I was in pain and nothing was gunna help. But he was great. He didn't pass out in delivery, squirm nothing!!! He's a great father to his daughter and a great boyfriend. We still have our fights.. But we are still together and we work everything out. We wanna show our daughter a strong relationship, so when she grows up she doesn't have to go through what I did or him. We made 3 years this January, we live together,  and it's been hard, but it's a great learning experience! 

Hope this gives everyone a little background of us:D 

Thanks for reading :)

Portuguese Chicken Recipe

Hey everyone! This blog is going to be a recipe my grandma taught me. It's chicken and potatoes, with sauce .. It's so yummy! Please let me know of any of you try it!!! I'd love to hear reviews!!! 

Ingredients

1 onion sliced however your prefer 

2 garlic cloves thinly sliced

1 can of tomato paste

Portuguese hot pimento sauce ( i use the brand FERMA, and they also have sweet too of you don't like spicy)

olive oil

5-6 potatoes 

Boneless chicken (breast, leg, wings, I used bonless and skinless breast but it all works

Salt

Black pepper

Seasoning salt

The first step is to put the tomato paste at the bottom of the tray and spread it out. 

Next your going to add the onions and garlic to the tray as much as you'd like.

Then you can put the pimento sauce, I drain it and then put it in cause my boyfriend doesn't like the seeds.

Then you can drizzle olive oil in the pan over everything in there.

Now you can can out the potatoes, I usually skin them and cut them in half around the pan. ( if your a little confused I'll post a picture of what it looks like before and after )

In a seperate bowl I season the chicken with seasoning salt, pimento sauce, garlic powder, pinch of black pepper and I put some onions in the bowl and mix it all up. 

I then place the chicken in the middle of the pan.

Preheat the oven to 350. 

Cover the top of the pan with foil and lift the four corners up just a little. This will allow the potatoes to cook! 

Once in this oven check it in about 15 minues, flip the potatoes and chicken , recover and put it back in untill it's done!

Usually takes 35 mintues in my oven. But everyone has a different stove! So keep an eye on it 

You can salt if you'd like. Personally doesn't need much. Do it before you put it in the oven.

Before it was cooked

I kinda rub the sauce all over everything.

After it's cooked

The hot sauce I use is 

Enjoy! Thanks guys :) 

Becoming a Mom

Hey everyone! This blog post is going to be about how much being a mom changes your life. 

Once you become pregnant you already know your life isn't going to revolve around yourself anymore. But it really doesn't become reality until you give birth. Forget about doing your hair perfectly, your make up, going outside whenever you want, eating when your hungry, peeing by yourself.. It's not going to happen.. Lol! 

Showers? Taken at night when avah is down for the night. 

Makeup&Hair? Done in 30 mins while she's asleep.

Washroom breaks? Most of the time while I'm holding her.

Shopping? Maybe once a week with her, she likes to be held so mostly holding her and shopping at the same time. 

Sleep? Forget about it. People say sleep when the baby sleeps.. If you do that you'll never get anything done. Nothing!!

Sleeping in? HAaaa, not happening.

Cooking? Avah is usually in a carrier on me, or I cook when she's asleep. So yes sometimes I'm eating at 9pm.

Blogging? During naps. 

Point is it's not easy.. Everything changes. I had a really easy time when avah was a newborn. She slept a lot. Now that she's getting older... Boy oh boy.. She doesn't like to sleep often... 

Now just imagine yourself everyday doings, but now add a child to it? 

Would you be able to continue doing everything you've done? Probably not.

I mean it's completely worth it, I love my daughter. 

If your in school that's another thing to think about. I was in college and had to stop, cause I have a baby to take care of. School plus baby! No way 

 

Friends? Forget about it, you'll loose so many individuals when you have a baby cause you can no longer go out every weekend.

Pretty Manicure? Won't stay pretty too long. Lol first day I get my nails done they are ruined in about 1 hour ethier broken or not shiny anymore! Lol 

Your 100$ clothes? Don't even think about wearing that around a baby! Your bound to get it ruined with something !!! 

( pee, poo, drool, puke) SOMETHING WILL HAPPEN LOL!!!

Cellphones and IPad? Apparently are theirs not yours... 

Watching tv? I'm always watching disney junior... DRIVES ME INSANSE!!! 

Cleaning? When the baby is sleeping.

Lol now see how many things I've mentioned that I do when she's sleeping? And she doesn't sleep sometimes or takes two 30 min naps a day!!! crazy right??!

It's the most rewarding job ever don't get me wrong, but once your a parent it's not like a day time job, where you clock out at 5 and have days off. This is a 24 hours a day 7 days a week job! You don't only have to think for yourself now you thinking for yourself and your baby. 

Yes, EVERYTHING CHANGES!!! 

Thanks for reading :D

Loosing Baby Weight

Hey everyone! Today I wanna discuss how I've been getting the baby weight I gained off. I mean, let's face it, not all of us bounce back like most do... I certainly didn't. So I wanna share how I've done it. As you all know I gained about 65 pounds in pregnancy YIKES! Your only suppose to gain 30... So I lost about 25 pounds after I gave birth. Which left me at 155. This was not the weight I wanted to be at! I want to be atlesst at 130 pounds.

First very important thing is eating healthy! I've never been the type to eat healthy. I've had such a fast matabolism my whole life that I could eat whatever the heck I wanted and not gain a pound... After I had my daughter that changed.. I started eating more vegetables less greasy foods.. And it helped a lot... 

Cut out any sodas or juice!!! This method makes you loose a quick and easy 10 pounds right off the bat!!! Water water water! I know water sucks. I use to hate water... Couldn't stand it.. Now it's my bestfriend. I mean if that's how I'm going to loose weight then I'm loving it every second! 

I also eat foods in moderation. So if I'm gunna eat pasta I only eat about 1 cup. Or ice cream, one scoop.. Everything is moderation for me now... I mean don't think of it as a diet think of it as a healthy lifestyle. If you put your mind to it you can do it!!!! 

A healthy way to loose weight is loosing 1-2 pounds a week.. Some weeks you won't loose weight ethier and some weeks you'll loose more then you thought. But don't give up!!!! 

Always have three meals a day and two snacks... Yes I don't always follow this rule cause it's hard with a infant.. But even if you have to prep before.. Do that. I've also purchased frozen healthy meals. Smart Ones! They go on sale very often for about 2$ and they are low in calories. Well most of them. It's really saved me when my daughter has wanted to be held all day and I'm STARVING!!!!

Now in 7 weeks I've lost a total of 15.6 pounds !!! EASY RIGHT. ? Not eating anything speical, haven't really exercised gunna start as soon as weather gets better! I'm currently at 140. It's not where I wanna be but I'm getting there

Ladies remeber it took you 9 months to make a baby don't expect results in 2 months give yourself up to a year!!!!! 

If you have any questions please feel free to ask me! I'm open to answering anything and everything!!! 

Rough Patches in life...

Hey guys, in this blog in going to be writting about my teenage years... They weren't the greatest as you can tell from the title but I'm willing to share it with you guys..

So when I was in grade seven I started becoming quite popular I'd say..  I hung out with the cool girls and whatever else.. I finally fit in. Well fitting in was probably not the best choice from me and I probably could of avoided a lot of stupid choices I made in the up coming years. Girls when your mother tells you that someone is no good for you... Do not ignore her MOTHERS ARE ALWAYS RIGHT!!!! Yeah my mother warned me over and over and over again that these "friends" were not my friends... Boy was she right.. But of course teenagers rebel, lol I went a lot more then rebelling. Whatever, I started hanging out in parks with lots of girls and guys, peer pressured in to smoking cigarets. From here my life just kept going down hill. I started arguing with my mother a lot , who really just wanted to best for me (sorry mom, love you <3). And then the stupid relationships came.. I dated someone when I was like 14 who was a lot older then me, who had a child . BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!! I will not get into details about any of these relationships because I do not like to talk about this time in my life .. And then 15 dated another guy who was abusive towards me, and I actually needed to get a restraining order... Crazy right ? Girls please please please learn from me! A man who doesn't treat you good does NOT deserve you! Do not stick around cause they usually never change maybe the odd case but abusive men especially DO NOT CHANGE! Okay throughout this couple years I was spiralling outta control... I lied about where I was what I was doing who I was with... I just wanted to finally be accepted by a guy for me... Seemed impossible at the time . My current boyfriend and the father of my child is who met me when I was a mess, and he honestly was def not the type for me in the beginning. I'll write our story in another blog... But he stuck by me and helped me get on track with my life.. I started relaxing the more people I let go the better I became.. I don't know how to explain this well but, he like saved me from possibly hitting rock bottom... Hitting any lower then I was. I got into the partying phase and wanting to be out everywhere all the time .. You name it blizzard I was there, thunderstorm COUNT ME IN... My mother always told me she could never keep me inside. Any who.. Once I stopped hanging out at parks with my friends the negativity slowly disappeared.. I was also getting old and those scenes were getting quite boring.. Since I was also in a serious relationship with my current boyfriend he helped me move out of all the madness.. I stopped hanging out with about 95% of the people that got me into trouble, I started college and I got my life back on track.. My mother and I also started developing a rather close realtionship.. I wasn't lying anymore, I was bascially working and going to school everyday, or with my boyfriend. 

Let me just say one thing.. Friends that gossip about other to you and doing the same thing behind your back! I had a couple of friends that said my boyfriend was no good and if I dated him they wouldn't be my friends. That folks, are not TRUE FRIENDS... 

Well, lessons learned.. I no longer hang out with a lot of people, I have a few close friends and that's about it.. 

Hope you enjoyed :) 

P.S : Listen to your mothers, mothers are always right :) 

Goodnight :D

Guest Blog Post - Christina Lane

Hey everyone! Today I have a GUEST BLOG POST! She is the sweetest person ever, has kids of her own, and has been through some tough situations in her life which she describes in her post!! For more blogs from Christina, check out her blog link it'll be posted at the bottom of this blog! If you guys are book worms she also has an amazing book out called " More of you, Less of Me"! I read the book in one day! It was such an inspiring story! 

Okay guys here it is; 

First I’d like to start off by saying thank you Kayla for this opportunity to be a guest on your blog and share a little bit of my story. I’m really honored.

Hi there! My name is Christina. I’m a young mom to three amazing, awesome kids. Ok, one adult and two teens.  Now they weren’t always an adult and two teens. They started off as little wee babies.

Allow me to share a little bit of my story with you.

I’m a former teen mom.  At the fresh ripe age of 17, I gave birth to my son. I had no idea what I was in for but I did know that I wanted to be the best mom I could ever be.  Life threw many challenges my way and by the grace of God I buckled up and held on tight. My son’s biological dad was not up for this challenge and chose, with my help, a different path of life. So here I was 17 years old with a child. As time went on, and many heartaches and challenges later, I met someone.

Long story short, we got together and at the wonderful age of 19, guess what??? Yup, I got pregnant again! In June of 1995, I gave birth to my second child. Oh, did I mention I got married too? Yes, I did. So here I was 19 years old with two children, a husband and a cat. Life was far from easy. We were on a roller coaster of crazy for a couple of years, trying to make things work. It was a hard life. I was very lonely and felt very sad. Although I felt so sad, I loved my kids. We had fun together. My two kids loved each other and we spent a lot of time together. If life was not challenging enough, guess what happened next? After my 21st birthday, I received a late birthday gift. Can you guess what it was? If you guessed another child, you are correct!

So here I was, 21 years old with three kids under the age of four.One magnificent boy and two beautiful girls.

Thinking back to my early days as a young mom, I can’t believe the things that we went through. I did a lot of growing up. A lot.As my kids grew, I grew. I changed. I embraced parenting.

Here are a few things that I did, and still do today, to help make me a better parent:

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I chose to go with the flow of each day. By that I mean, if the dishes didn’t get done, they didn’t get done. If I had plans for the day and the day didn’t go with “my plans”, well so be it. I placed no expectation on the day. I went with where the kids were at and what they wanted to do (depending on what it was) haha.

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TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!! Take a bath, do yoga, pray and meditate, exercise, whatever it is, BE SURE TO DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF IF NOT DAILY, WEEKLY!! I cannot stress this enough.

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If you are with your partner, GO ON DATES! At least once a week or every two weeks, do something fun together, tell each other something good to one another daily. LOVE each other and HELP each other. HAPPY PARENTS ARE BETTER PARENTS ;)  

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PRAISE your child and say nice things about them. Especially when talking with other people. Your child needs to know you have their back and that they can count on you.

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If you are a parent, BE A PARENT. Having a “single” life and being a parent is like an oxymoron to me.

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Above all else, learn to love yourself and have FUN with your child. Laugh daily and hug often. Make choices that will better yourself and your family.

Parenting is a journey, it’s not a destination. Buckle up and enjoy the ride. You were chosen to have that child, YOU WERE CHOSEN. There’s a reason for it. Trust the process and learn to accept life on life’s terms with your child.

Today I am 38 years old. I am thriving and so are my kids. Two of my kids have graduated high school and are in University and college (I have an ear to ear grin as I type that). My son is actually going to be graduating from university this coming June. How’s that for teen mom statistics?? J My youngest daughter is finishing up high school. She’s got one more year to go. My relationships with each of my kids are amazing. Not only am I their mom, we are friends. I love them to bits! They saved my life. Today I can look back and thank God for this life He chose for me.

To all you parents out there, hang on through the tough times, they pass. Love yourself and be kind to you and your child, help each other out. Give each other a break. And here’s a very good question to ask yourself when the kids get “out of hand”, “Is this the hill I want to die on today?” Chances are it’s not. Hang on and take breaks when you need them. Live in the day you’re in. Forget tomorrow.

You are special. You are awesome. You are loved. Yup you are.

If you’d like to know more about me come check me out at: www.teenmombloggers.com

Bullying

It's time I discuss something a little different , something that has probably been discussed many many many times... 

Bullying is wrong! Honestly why must people break other people down to feel a sense of satisfaction in their lives? This his horrible. I mean I see girls on my instgram (mothers mostly) ripping eachother apart... I'd just like to say, what if that was your daughter or son being treated that way? What if you had to hear your children crying because society just wouldn't accept them for who they are? I know bullying hurts.. It cuts deep wounds that can't be fixed all the time... People commit suicide daily because people are being horrible human beings... ATTN BULLIES: my question to you is why? Why rip people apart? I've asked this question many times and there's always an answer, " she's a slut" "he's stupid and ugly" "she/he dated my ex boyfriend/girlfriend" " she's emo" "she sent out nudes" STOP ALL THE JUDGEMENT... Do you know this persons full detailed story? Have you taken the time to figure out why they are acting out? Most bullies would say no to that. So instead of ripping people apart why not try and help them! HELLO EVERYONE OUR CHILDREN ARE GROWING UP IN THIS SOCIETY!! What they see is what they'll do. It's up to us to change that.. Take a stand, if you know someone who is getting bullied help them out, don't be a by stander.. 

Controversial Parenting Topics

Hey everyone ! I'm going to be writing about controversial parenting topics! This is my own opinion and I really don't mean to offend anyone who reads this! It is not my intention at all! If you easily and quickly offended please do not read this... 

Bottle/Formula Feeding

I was bottle and formula fed, my daughter is as well.. Does this mean babies aren't healthy or growing at the rates they should be? No it does not. Formula has all the nutrition a baby really needs.. Breast is always claimed best. I totally get thatmkBut really speaking some mother physically can't breast feed! Some don't produce at all or enough, some stop due to the pain of breastfeeding (chapped nipples, Bleeding nipples, etc), some can't get their child to latch properly. I Just don't think mothers should be frowned upon or judged because of this... A baby being FED IS BEST! Doesn't matter if it's formula or breast feeding!

Purchasing Gender Specfic Items

So I think that boys and girls should be able to play with whatever they want! If a boy wants a doll, he should play with it! If a girl wants to play with toy cars , she should! Most people think that if a child likes the opposite genders toys that they will turn homosexual... Honestly, this is wrong.. Kids will become whatever they want, not depending on what they play with.. What if a little boy who plays house or with dolls becomes the greatest superhero dad ever? What if a girl who plays with cars becomes an awesome race car driver? I for one  loved playing sports, wearing boy clothes, hair tied all the time, I was pretty tom boy. It doesn't change who I am.. So if your children wanna play with something, let them. They might enjoy it they might not.. But it doesn't matter!! 

Crying it Out

I personally would never let my daughter "cry it out". I don't think this is an effective way of teaching your child anything, I'm not saying that every whimper should be responded to, but when they start crying crying they are communicating that something is bothering them!! Children need to be taught not let to cry! I read a picture once that said children who cry it out have stopped crying because they've lost all hope of anyone trying to help them... This made my heart break into pieces.. I couldn't stand my own child to ever feel that way! I feel that this is NOT something I would ever do with my children. But every parents has their own opinion and I don't judge anyone! If it works for you then go for it! 

Vaccinations vs No Vaccinations

I think vaccinations are made to protect our children from harmful diseases. I vaccinate my daughter... This I know is a huge debate topic amongst the mothers I follow on instgram... Vaccinations were made to protect our children, sure they suck, I completely get that! But don't you want your children to be protected against measles, chicken pox, and the other 100 things it covers? All I'm saying is if it was unsafe for babies to have, I don't think they would make them.. 

Abortion

Behold the inheritance of the Lord are children: the reward, the fruit of the womb. {Psalms 127:3}

I'm PROLIFE. I think every baby deserves a chance! A life is a life no matter what.. I once seen on a networking site someone post " at 7 weeks it's only a sack of cells it's not killing". I'm sorry but this hurts my heart terribly. It's a life right at conception! Many people may disagree with me and that's fine because as I said everyone has their own choices. I just think there are other ways! For instance, Adoption.. Do you know how many people crave to grow a baby inside their bodies and long to love one even if it didn't come from their own body...? LOTS! I mean why abort when you can give this sweet innocent soul to someone who'd be wiling to give it all the love and items that they need? If your excuse for an abortion is you weren't ready, they I don't think you should have been having sexual intercourse.. Cause your obviously not ready for that ethier. once again I AM NOT TRYING TO OFFEND ANYONE! This is just my personal opinion, and I also do not judge!!! I just personally WOULDNT DO IT MYSELF! 

Natural Birth vs. Pain Medication

First off if you had a natural birth, your literally a superhero! I mean it!! It's very very hard. Labor pain is the worst pain I've ever felt in my life.. I personally had no doubts I knew straight from beginning I was going to get an epidural. Many people say that this complicates your labor! It does no doubt, I probably wouldn't have ripped or been cut if I could actually feel I was pushing.. But the  thing where your baby is drugged... I don't believe that is true at all... My child came out screaming and yelling and very alert. Natural birth is better for you, but not everyone has a high pain tolerance. 

Circumcision vs No Circumcision 

This is big too. I mean for girls I don't think it should be done unless it's a religious thing.. But for boys it has a lot of benefits. Prevents infection that happens between the skin ( it's easier to keep clean), helps not develop and uti, reduces the chance of penile cancer. If I had a boy I would look into this a lot more before actually doing the procedure.

 And God said unto Abraham, Thou shalt keep my covenant therefore, thou, and thy seed after thee in their generations. This is my covenant, which ye shall keep, between me and you and thy seed after thee; Every man child among you shall be circumcised. {Genesis 17:9-10}

Cloth diapers vs Disposable

I personally would never do cloth diapers.. Sure it's cheaper and whatever.. But disposable are just as good.. I mean I barley have time to do things in a day with an infant, could you imagine having to add about 5 extra things ? This is definitely not for me. I mean people swear up and down that this is better and what not... But really diapers don't have nutrition or anything it's just soaking up poo and pee... 

Child harness and Leashes 

I know someone out there probably has a kid that runs, takes off, hides in racks at the stores. But I mean I just think leashes are mean... It's a child not an animal.. Holding the child's hand is just as effective.. Lol. Or put your child in a stroller or shopping cart.. I don't like the idea of these leashes and harness' they make children look like they belong in a zoo or cage.

Baby Piercing 

Okay. I for one think it's totally ok to pierce a child's ear. It's not "tagging". I've heard soooo many times I can't even count that getting your daughters ears done are considering tagging them... To each their own right.. But hey, it looks cute and it's gone on for years and years.. I guess I was tagged at 3 months old.. Totally Joking... 

Finding out gender of your Unborn baby

Why not? I mean we are living in 2014!! Now a days walk into a popular baby store and have a look around. You see a lot of blue a lot of pink but only a couple pieces of neutral... Now if your finding out the gender and terminating it, that is so very WRONG!!! You were given this beautiful innocent soul for a reason!!!! Do not be a selfish individual and terminate a pregnancy over this madness!!!

Toy Guns

Personally I don't think they should be played with unless they truly understand what a gun is... Like children play with them, not knowing that real guns actually end peoples lives... I mean hey, the more you refrain a child from doing something, the more they are going to wanna do it.. But guns are completely outta the question in my house hold! 

So I mean there are thousands of these topics and I could go on and on but, these are good for now. I hope no one is offended. These are just my opinions and beliefs. 

Thanks for reading !! 

Pregnancy Month to Month

Hey everyone! Since I posted my pregnancy and labor story, I thought i would post my monthly belly shots!!! 

Here they are 

3 months 

4months 

5 months 

 It's a girl :D^^ 

6 months

7 months

 

8 months 

9 months

My face was really fat here lol.... Embarrassing ...

My bestfriend and I were pregnant at the same time she had her second beautiful baby boy a month after avah! 

The last picture is the day before I had her .. I got really big fast! If you read my other blog you'd see exactly how much weight I gained. 

Thanks for reading :D